How to stop technology addiction and start living – Part 3

Instead of writing a bucket list why not draw it out? #clarity #goals

Mr Bee: You talk about living more intentionally through deepening and developing your mindfulness practice. What does it mean to live intentionally?

Sebastian: For me it starts with clarity of purpose. Spending time to know why you are doing something is really important. A lot of the time that starts with being more aware in general. Mindfulness practice is useful here.  In particular, there are a few practical methods which help me. You mentioned journaling and writing. Whether it’s goal setting or planning, writing things or simply drawing a picture can make a big difference for me . These methods help me to connect directly to my goals and intentions.

Boy and Hummingbird (End of Book)
An illustration from Sebastian’s book – Boy and Humming Bird. Illustration by Blaze Syka

Mr Bee: Drawing and visualisation are excellent tools, not everyone likes reading and writing let’s face it!  Something I came across recently is to make a diary or a note, but instead of keeping it, you recycle the note. It saves on store and better for the environment too!

A lot your work is around behaviour change Sebastian. Have you found any correlation between values and behaviour?

Sebastian: I do think that your values may change over time. Depending on what stage of your life you are at and what’s important at that time. I also believe that it’s critical to have a north star or a guiding point in life. We do work with people around values using a set of cards which people then sort through. This exercise elicits which values people are most drawn to. There is a whittling down process from 5 value cards to 3 for example.

Mr Bee: What is the practical value of such exercises?

Sebastian: For some people that is really helpful. For some, just having a word like ‘family’ , ‘humour’ or ‘commitment’ may not trigger the right responses.  This does vary depending on whom I am working with. For others it is more about making connections with a story in their lives. This makes them curious about their own behaviour. There is always a turning point in one’s life and our behaviour shapes so many decisions. It is important to stay connected to your story and the ‘why’ behind it, and ultimately use that as a driver to bring positive change in your life.

Mr Bee: What is a simple way one can spend less time scrolling online?

Sebastian: I question the use of my time online. I think about this a lot actually  I work with my clients and get them to ask the question ‘what could I be doing with this time that I am scrolling or watching Netflix?’.

Mr Bee: I like that question, life certainly is short…

Sebastian: Yes it is. Depending on your beliefs we have a limited amount of time in this life. It is important to recognise that, as well as our own mortality. We do not have eternal time to scroll on Facebook. Life is precious – what are you going to do with this time? Those kind of questions are helpful to stop myself from using mindless technology.

Join us for Part Four where we discuss how to set healthy boundaries with technology. Sebastian also reveals more about the well-being work he does with Nature Unplugged.