By Simon Sobanski
Turn setbacks into comebacks
Trouble, setbacks, failings are all difficult to endure. When we face trouble we often cry out, why me? What have I done to deserve this? Trouble can often cause pain, suffering, anxiety and stress. We often see trouble as an obstacle that has no purpose in our lives. However the truth is, we should view trouble as a teacher and a friend. Redefining the meaning of this word will change your life.
“We are frequently transported from happiness to sadness, from fear to joy and from despair to rejoicing.”
In any dark place there is always light that can be found. Within that light we can find peace, hope and a lesson. Light travels at great speed, and so do we. Our thoughts, emotions and sensations are sometimes rapidly changing due to external circumstances. We are moved swiftly from happiness to sadness, from fear to joy and from despair to rejoicing. Our body and mind are a travelling nomad.
Learn how to manage your emotions
Trouble is nothing different to the emotions it derives. Trouble often takes us to a destination that was not our first choice. However, consider all the countless destinations in your life you have arrived to, endured and learnt from. There are lessons in the journey. The destination is actually your choice. You can choose your destination to be weakness, depression, embarrassment or alternatively strength, wisdom and courage.
Take Nelson Mandela as an example, his trouble was of a severe nature and lasted many years. However, he chose to arrive at a destination called forgiveness and he learnt not only to forgive but to teach others the powerful lesson of forgiveness and how it sets us free. Yet, in that moment of incarceration the preparation and teaching for his destiny were unknown to him and he became a great icon and president of his country.
There is no perfect opportunity. Only opportunity
Trouble is often trying to teach us something in that moment or alternatively it maybe a delayed teaching for our unknown future. Trouble doesn’t stick around forever, as with all things it passes like a vapour. In times of trouble we have the opportunity to better ourselves for reasons yet unknown. We’ve all heard of the saying, ‘Fail to prepare, prepare to Fail’. Well trouble is that preparation for better things to come when you really don’t want to fail.
“You can choose your destination to be weakness, depression, embarrassment or alternatively strength, wisdom and courage.”
Therefore, if you are experiencing any trouble in your life, do not feel weak, depressed or embarrassed. You are actually being prepared for greater things to come and you can arrive at a destination you never imagined. As with all lessons remember to pay attention to the teacher. Always ask yourself; what is the positive spin on this situation? and What does this situation teach me?
Take away exercise:
- Make time to play, relax and engage in meaningful interactions.
Next time you find that your body and mind are out of sync remember to focus improving your self-love and self-care regime. Our fast-paced, technology driven, goal-setting and competitive world often sets us up for a fall. Remember that even if you find yourself in real trouble, this too will pass.